I'm the kind of person who skips to the conversation when reading a book.

Friend — Five Minute Friday


Yes, indeed, I wanted to be a social butterfly.  They are the beautiful people who flit around making everyone and everything feel more beautiful.  They are graceful.  And beautiful. Did I mention beauty?

But I am no butterfly.  I’ve never been socially graceful.  I’ve never fully understood social graces.  I only knew that they looked beautiful on someone else.

I’ve known for a long time that I am an INTJ.  Every time I take the test, I get the same results.

INTJs are hawks and snakes.  They ravage others.

When I was called a female dog this past year — I’m talking about the 5 letter version of that term — it didn’t hurt like it used to.  That’s because I now have a very small circle of friends.

Female INTJs are often referred to in that way.  We make up about 1% of the population.  Thank goodness, eh?

Think a female version of House — and there’s your INTJ woman.  Not the best friend in the world.  Blunt, abrupt, coarse.  Yeah, I can see why we don’t have friends.

But that makes us ever the more thankful for the few that we have.  We just may never tell them that.


I followed the rules this time for Five Minute Friday.  Five minutes of writing on a given prompt.  No back-tracking and editing (except I did to add a link).  Is it cheating that I thought about it first?  The first thought that came to my mind when I saw the prompt, “friend”, was that I don’t have many and I blame it on my personality type.  But the few that I have are treasures beyond measure, because they’ve taken the time to get past my caustic side and find the wannabe butterfly hidden away inside.

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23 comments on “Friend — Five Minute Friday

  1. lala1966
    April 26, 2013

    a female version of House sounds good to me lol

    • sarahlangdon
      April 26, 2013

      You’re so kind. I really do try to soften it, but every once in a while, like once a week, I seriously offend someone and it takes me a while to figure the whole thing out. I try to be nice — but I guess it’s not who I am 🙂

      • lala1966
        April 26, 2013

        I love House and I can relate to his personality myself. I am going to take that test when I get the time. I have a feeling I might be a female House too! xx

      • sarahlangdon
        April 26, 2013

        Let me know what you turn out to be!

      • lala1966
        April 26, 2013

        lol, ok! 😉

  2. Lisa @ four simply living
    April 26, 2013

    Okay, so can I say that sometimes we need the female version of House. Yes it stings, but there is soul truth in honesty and sometimes us non-INTJ’s need to hear that truth. Visiting from 5MF, so glad I came over.

    • sarahlangdon
      April 26, 2013

      Thanks, Lisa. When God made us all different and called us a body, He knew what He was doing. We all are important. The butterflies and the Houses.

  3. Suzanne
    April 26, 2013

    I’m an introvert. I like to listen, get a feel for the group/crowd/person before I talk. Sometimes that means I never talk. It’s amazing how we are all made with such different personalities, points of view, etc. We all bring unique perspectives to the table. You write beautifully, and I would love to sit and chat with you – blunt, abrupt, coarse, whatevs – as long as it’s you 🙂 Have a wonderful weekend!

    • sarahlangdon
      April 26, 2013

      Thank you for your kind words and for visiting, Suzanne!

  4. asmallbutmeaningfullife
    April 26, 2013

    like this one…

  5. lala1966
    April 26, 2013

    just took it- INTJ !!

  6. catterel
    April 26, 2013

    Why do we always want to be what we aren’t? Ungrateful, dissatisfied with ourselves – but with a bit of luck (and a good shake from genuine friends) we can usually get used to being the way we are though it might take a lifetime! Let’s just count our blessings!

  7. Mia
    April 26, 2013

    Dear Sarah
    I think we will be good friends!! I think House is quite an interesting character! Just a little hurt boy, hiding behind incredibly bad manners. But, boy, he is an excellent doctor!

  8. Elizabeth P
    April 26, 2013

    Oh I’m shuddering! I’m an INFJ and quivering as I think what it would be like to be House’s friend! But he is oddly appealing at the same time. Thanks for making me laugh and think. Stopping by from FMF.

  9. shortybear
    April 26, 2013

    Appreciate your honest heart.

  10. Susan
    April 26, 2013

    It’s not cheating to think about it first, or at least I hope not, because I always do! 🙂 Good reading; I like the female House analogy.

    • sarahlangdon
      April 28, 2013

      Some people seem to just free write for FMF, and I tried it once, but couldn’t even post what I had written — it was that incoherent. So lately I’ve been going way over the 5 minutes which seems like cheating too. This time, I looked at the prompt, tried to go in the direction of my first thoughts, thought about what I wanted to say, busied myself around the house (not House) while it simmered for an hour or two, then wrote for five minutes. FMF sounds easy, but, boy, is it hard!

  11. Alyssa
    April 27, 2013

    You are scary.

  12. Anna
    April 28, 2013

    Oooh! Another INTJ! We’re the best, you know. Oh wait. Of course you know! You’re INTJ – We know what we know and we know what we don’t know…like how special we in the 1% really are! 😉 (Just kidding)

    We may have our strengths and our weaknesses but I agree that we all make up the body. I’m an INTJ in disguise – people often mistake me for an E but I’m an INTJ at heart.

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